Being SINGLE maybe is a choice. But sometimes, we can't help but wonder and ask ourselves why are we still single. Is it because of you, your standards, your zodiac, or you just haven't met the "right person" that everyone is looking.
So, I list some honest, funny and brutal reasons why "maybe" you're still single:
1. Wala Pa Ka Move On sa Last Relationship
Admit it, dili lalim ug dili ing-ana kadali makalimtan ang ex especially kung daghan mog first time nga gipangbuhat when you were still together. That feeling of fighting against your memories and trying to forget everything. Well, adunay duha ka rason nganong mag lisod og move on, it’s either nag MAOY or nag MAHAY. Nag Maoy because you know that you’ve risked and given everything for it to work. Nag Mahay because sya na unta to, pero wala man ka na kontento, and now that he/she is no longer in your arms karon pa nimo na appreciate pag ayo how lucky you were to have her/him.
2. Natagam na Kay Kapila na Nasakitan
The past is a significant factor in how we conduct ourselves in the present or future. Maybe na trauma na ka because of a bad relationship experience. Kay katong nag seryoso na unta ka’s gugma, gikabuangan ug gipasakitan na nuon ka. Remember this equation: Emotional Investment = Emotional Risk. Kay nahigugma man ka, prepare to be hurt. Maybe he/she was not the right person for you, maybe that was not the perfect time, yet. Busa ayaw katagam. Just because you’ve been bitten by a snake before, it doesn't mean everything on the grass is snake; So never let your past predict your future.
3. Nagpa-abot nga Balikan pa Sa Ex
This is the usual reason for people nga nag dugay sa iyang last relationship, then walay tarong nga closure or nag cool off lang. You’re not alone because according to a survey, 51% or over half of Filipinos ang motoo that “Love is sweeter the second time around.” This could be true because kabalo na ka sa feeling to be with her/him and you’re kinda used to it na, and you know how attached you were with your ex katong kamo pa, and now nga nagbuwag mo, the feeling nga wala na sya sucks, so you keep on longing and hoping nga magbalik pa unta mo.
4. Dili ganahan og Commitment kay Dili pa Ready
It’s in our nature to try to pursuit for “something better”, competition is normal for us because we’re animals and it’s part of our nature as well to be in competition with each other, so we always go for something or choose to be with someone nga mas makaayo or maayo para kanato. We try wait for that “better person” to come at a “better time” kung kanus-a andam na ka, kung kanus-a dili na ka “busy”, and na accomplished na nimo imong other priorities (family, career, travel-goals, etc.).
5. Trying to Find Yourself by Being Independent
Being single is not really a big deal. Well in fact, it is the BEST time to make yourself the best version of yourself , to find yourself, to get to know yourself, to work on yourself, to confront yourself. Doing what you love and finding your purpose, creating and building a career, be financially stable and training yourself to be independent. Perfecting the ‘I,’ before you start expecting everything out of others.
6. Dili Ganahan Naay Mamadlong or Mag Sigeg Monitor
You hate being asked kung "Asa na ka?", "Ga-unsa ka?", "Nikaon na ka?" or di ka ganahan og uyab nga murag confused and frustrated parent nga lupig pa ang imong papa/mama sa ka strikto kung makabadlong nimo "Ni laag napod ka?", "Uli na nya kay gabie na?", "Ayaw pa gabie", "Kinsa napod imong kuyog ron?" But to be honest, makamingaw baya pod ning ing-ani, basta dili lang pirmehon to the point nga mura nakag matuok.
7. Mas Ganahan lang og Fling-fling, No Strings Attached or M.U.
What is a fling? A fling is a casual “relationship” between two people without the necessary expectations of commitment normally present in a formal romantic relationship.
Most of the time nganong mo prefer og fling it’s because of reasons #4 and #6 thinking things will get less complicated . You try to set boundaries and to keep it strictly within limits. Just be very careful and make sure you know what to do when feelings develop and you decided to pursue a REALationship.
Remember, a fling can be fun but it isn’t for everyone. So enjoy it while it lasts and when it ends, MOVE ON.
8. Taas Imong Standards
Medjo maypagka-choosy ka to the point of setting your standard unrealistically. You're trying to look for that "Perfect Guy" or "Perfect Girl" material. "Dapat mas taas pa nako" or "dapat mas taas pako", "dapat ing-aning idara", must have a college degree, "dapat naay motor", "dapat famous", "dapat puti", "dapat sexy" or "dapat macho". Lupigan nimo ang mga dagkong company sa kataas sa requirements ug kuwang nalang magpa IQ test and entrance exam ka. Remember, if you want to find a catch, you have to be a catch yourself.
9. Tungod Kay Wala Nimo Gi-forward ang Chain Messages Sauna
Remember those chain messages sa text or sa Facebook nga wala nimo gi-forward or gi-share? katong "share/forward this to 10 people in 7 days, if not bad luck will fall upon you for 10 years", basin tinuod to, who knows.
10. Walay Nanguyab(for girls) or Walay Nisugot(for boys)
Just because you’re single kay walay nanguyab or nisugot nimo, it doesn’t automatically mean nga bati kag nawng or bati kag batasan. It’s just that sometimes, magtoo or mag assume ang mga tao nga TAKEN na ka kay you’re just so damn good looking, blooming and you carry yourself very well for you to stay/be single. But if di pod ing-ana ka gwapa\gwapo or maypagka maldita/maldito, well, it’s time for you to reflect and do something about it. Okay lang man magpa hard to get ka, just make sure you're not "Hard to Want".
